Deviant:
- A person or thing that departs markedly from the accepted norm.
- Someone you would rather not find next to you in bed.
Mind:
- Reason, sanity or sound mental condition, a way of thinking and feeling.
- Someone you would still rather not find next to you in bed.
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Here at Deviant Minds, we thought it would be a great idea to introduce helpful hints, trivia, quotes and instructions on the many different desires, fantasies and observations of sexual wants. With a little humor mixed in just to keep it fun. After all, what could be funnier than the faces we make during an orgasm? Sex can and is, humorous, adventurous, thought provoking and brings out feeling in us, like no other physical or emotional act. Truly, sex in itself can get boring quickly. As an inventor species, we always come up with something different and new things to try. So enjoy and take the many articles written here as a tongue and cheek experience. Who knows you might learn something new.
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Wanker:
- A commonly used Australian/British/New Zealand word used to describe a fuckball, jerk, asshole or jackass.
- It all originates from our repressed Victorian sexualities, from back when everybody thought they were the only ones to suffer the secret shame of being an actual wanker.
- Seems we are all a bunch of wankers. At one time or another, actually...
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All great lovers are articulate, and verbal seduction is the surest road to actual seduction... Marya Mannes
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This next section is dedicated to fetishes. Keeping in mind somewhere out there, others enjoy the bizarre and being different. While personally we have a few of our own. Further research provided showed how imaginative the human mind can be. Just make sure it is with another, actual, consenting adult. Warning: May not want to try these at home, try your neighbor’s instead.
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Forniphilia
Needed: Cushions, throw pillows, slip cover
The Fantasy: Gazing Longley towards the knick-knack shelf. You suddenly notice that small but elegant collection of matching salt and pepper-shakers, the snow globe…oh yeah. I know just where these can be placed, to give the right amount of pressure against….! You get it! Click to Expand
What is it? Forniphilia is one of the more milder of fetishes we have gone over. This involves furniture. Seriously, when was the last time you came home and asked the couch how its day was? And then took it for a spin in that new sports car and out to dinner? Okay maybe that is a bit much. But our furniture and baubles in our homes have been included in our fantasies, role-playing and masturbation for years. You just never realized it.
Origins: Feminist for years, decades even, have been trying to get men not to objectify their women. However, this is just what some people want, to be objectified. And you cannot get much better than a piece of furniture. Humping the arm of the couch or being bent over it are pretty much the same thing, for Forniphiliacs though, it is making their partner into the furniture. Chandeliers, easy chairs, coffee tables, to name just a few. No, no pictures here, use you imaginations. And yes in some cases bondage is used to hold the position of the 'furniture'. Isn't it amazing how many fetishes revert to childhood or BDSM.
So once you are positioned as a chair, then what? What? Chairs don't talk, use the bathroom or ask for water. They are there until needed. They certainly do not get tired. This is an extreme of BDSM. The partner is pushed into the submissive role, you are dehumanized, they are immobile. Some people find this the height of erotic, some, just plain weird. Obviously, there are trust issues and this is not for everyone. Especially if you are tied as a chair for hours. So if you are spicing up your sex play, you might think about this one, before participating.
Considerations: The good news, no allen wrench or those throw away wrenches are needed for assembly. Much like pressboard, people were just not made to be furniture for very long. One complaint is lack of circulation in some body parts after awhile. Awhile was never clearly defined. Start with short intervals of time, maybe even swap off being your favorite piece. As in with any BDSM activity, have a safe word and never, never, never, under any circumstances, ever, leave someone bound and leave the room or home. And keeps pets off the 'furniture'….claw marks.
Ending Note: In Susannah Breslin's short story 'F is for Forniphilia' in You're a Bad Man, Aren't You? A dutiful wife acts as a different piece of furniture every night. This in turn, 'turns on' her husband. Even though she didn't really enjoy it, it did wonders for their sex life. So you just never know if being a lamp would do it for your other half.
(From The Deviants pocket guide to the Outlandish Sexual Desires, by Dennis Diclaudio, copyright 2008, published by Bloomsbury, New York)
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This section is dedicated to instruction of every different shape, size, performance… training if you will. If you have a ‘hard’ time explaining, because the blood no longer functions in the higher brain, let us assist you. Men grow up knowing how to touch themselves. Women are always trying to help men figure out the female body and how it actually does work. (No it is not a chew toy). However, some partners just cannot cummincate what truly makes them feel…..Well you get the point. Let’s face it. Whether using as foreplay or just by ourselves on a rainy afternoon, it is truly a gift worth sharing. Once your man understands the empowerment he is allowing you, to study his penis. By the same token, once you understand the empowerment you are allowing him, to study your pussy. Men should study and cummunicate to the women and vice versa. Take the time to ask questions, touch, feel and definitely taste. Hopefully these instructions will help.
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This month, we are bringing back the statement….Ladies all together…'It is not a chew toy!' So this month a quick, but hopefully thorough, instruction of massaging the clit. So for those whose still don't know or you should actual know this, the clit isn't just a button under a hood. It actually is about 4 inches long and works about like a penis. When aroused it gets hard. It just doesn't wave flags like a penis, considering most of it is inside her. It is taken up by the 'legs' (like a wishbone) that run backward and flanks the urethra and vagina, thus stimulation is important, not chewing! However massaged correctly, can make most women go from nothing to orgasm in under 90 seconds. Yes it does!
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First massaging the clit is also called Clittage. It also helps if you know the difference by the feel or sight from the hood to the actual clit itself. Touching the head, which is 'under' the hood, before you have warmed her up can make her squirm and not in a nice way. Whenever in doubt, ask and or look, better yet do both.
Slow circulation around the hood, if she isn't already wet, this is a great start. Use lube as necessary. Usually heavy petting and kissing takes care of that part. GENTLY, squeeze the hood and clit together. Vary the touching and caressing and squeezing. Her moans a movements will tell you if you doing well. But like I said, ASK! Moaning answer is usually a yes.
Once you have warmed her up and gotten her even more wet, touch the clit directly by slowly moving from below the clit and up. A light touch is good here, unless she pushes into your hand. Move your finger back and forth slowly and building to a faster rhythm, again ask her which she prefers. Add just a small amount of pressure and then lighten back up again. Dipping you finger quickly into her vaginal opening and back up several times also works. Don't stop, by this time she should be so memorized with the movement, she is almost there. Some women who have sensitive nipples, sucking while doing these movements can bring them up closer to an orgasm. Want her to drip and beg, stop just before she comes, kiss her for a good minute, then start again.
You can do this over and over and over and over. As many times as she can take it. After a few times, the clit gets a certain amount of 'numbness', don't let that worry you, her orgasms will usually come right on top of each other after awhile. When she cannot take anymore, insert your now throbbing cock. And couple of in and outs then gently rub her clit. Gently, you will feel it get harder and she should be jumping under you or on top of you.
Remember Gentlemen, you warm up the lady and get her to cum more than 5 times in a row, you will so get whatever you pretty much want! So start with Clittage and see what happens.
(From the book - Forbidden Knowledge SEX. From Adams Media +FW Publications Company, Avon MA. www.adamsmedia.com)
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Our Feature Articles have taken on a new format starting in 2011. Our Feature Article is now the story or article written by our Tales of Desire contest winner. That's right, sign up for a free account and submit a story or article that you would like to enter into our monthly contest. Tell your friends to sign-up and vote for your story or article and if you are the winner for the month, your story or article will not only become our next Featured Article, but you will win a very nice adult toy for your playing pleasure. We are sure you will find these articles very interesting, intriguing, or entertaining. Check out what we have offered in the past.
Now keep in mind. Starting the 1st – 25th of each month is the voting time for the best tale. You can only vote once. So read, enjoy and vote. The winning Tale will be posted here the following month. And every few months the prizes will change over.
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Okay we are repeating ourselves here, because you have not caught on…..We are working out the kinks on our Monthly Contest on Erotic Stories. So this month, we want to reacquaint you with the other Contest. With Facebook. EVERY 50 new people who friend us, are eligible to pick a prize. So the more who join the better the chances. But we have decided to take this one step further. Since you recommend people to us, how to reward you. To make this as simple as possible. You must sign up under Tales of Desire. Blog to us the names of the people you have recommended. (We will check these.) For every 50 you recommend, you can choose from our list of prizes (from our ToyStore).
Don’t Forget this either……………..As of May 1, 2011, if you have already signed up for the Blog, your Password and Login have been transferred over to Tales of Desire. All posts are being transferred over. In the mean time, please Login and start posting away under Tales of Desire. By June 1, 2011, the Blog page will be eliminated. And a forum will be up for comments and whatever….
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Feature - Review
I come from the generation of Joy of Sex. And there is nothing wrong with this book or More Joy of Sex. When I first got married I read it several times. Of course it helped, but only to a point. It was very 'clinical reading'. Once again not bad, but dry and sorry to say, put me to sleep more than once. The husband at the time, thought it was a great idea, until I started asking questions and had him laid out pointing, then looking in the book. Sex kinda of lost something in that translation.
And no matter what any book can tell you, sex is better with the same person or persons over a period of time, and a lot of it. Everyone gets stale, that is expected, its human nature. However, now that sex is a bit more open, not by much, but enough that books have come out making sex more of the entertainment it is and should be. It is something we as homo sapiens enjoy and it is always on our minds. Some more than others. So when the 'Dummies guide books' started coming out, I could not wait!
Out comes The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex. And it came out just after my kids became adults in 2003. I made sure they both read it. As well as myself. Even after 20 years of having sex, it was refreshing to read in a no nonsense way about sex. And all the great things that go with it.
I'm sure there are newer additions, but I refer back to my copy more than once. Sari Locker is a tantalizing sex writer, and I aspire to be at her caliber some day. So if you have not read it you should. Sex education gets you only so far. And unlike some women my age (49), I don't like to teach. But I would have no problem handing out this book to anyone who wants to understand sex better. This picks up where you thought you knew.
I know we have this preconceived notion that the guys should know everything and be able to show us, they cannot. While you get the mechanics at an early age, it is not until later, you learn the 'finesse', that makes you do the OMG and WOW and see fireworks….Take a few moments and $20.00, it will be the best investment in time and money you have ever made. Even if you think you know all about it…..
Now get out there and practice! And never get perfect at it, because if you do, why practice anymore?
And we here at Deviant Minds…Are always catering to the pleasures of the flesh. So Power Partner with us!
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